I had a rather interesting evening last night which continued through to the wee hours of the morning. I was introduced by a friend to an eccentric character - we'll call him Adam. Adam appeared to be the type of guy who is a genius with technology (he works IT) but is a little socially inept. So Adam was shy, and I was struggling to get more than a yes or no answer at first from him regardless of the question. But a few beers later and the guy opened up. He told me about how he had just suffered through a tough divorce caused by cocaine abuse. Basically he had a friend die of an overdose which made him realize he needed to clean up his life. His wife, also a fan of the coke, didn't agree. So they broke up. I asked Adam if cocaine had been the common trait between the two of them and he said, "Other than a love for getting high we didn't have anything in common."
This got me thinking about my past few relationships and the commonalities between the women and me. What I realized is that I have a penchant for going after women that are far more different from me than alike? You've heard the phrase "opposites attract" but can "opposites" sustain a healthy relationship? Do dating services have it right? Should we be looking to find a "match" by pairing ourselves with people who share similar passions?
Adam and his ex-wife shared a passion for cocaine which obviously didn't work out. I know there isn't an equation for a successful relationship but does, lets say, people with shared interests in certain areas have a better shot? I'm sure the TYPE of passion figures into this equation as well but none-the-less, I really wonder if a relationship based on respect alone could be enough.
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